Buying a house is a major decision. For most people, it is the largest major financial decision that they will ever make. There are many aspects to consider when deciding on a house. Do you want to live in a city, the suburbs, or in a rural area? Finding your dream house and neighborhood can be a major undertaking.
My wife and I have lived in our current house since we were married. She bought the house from a relative before I was in her life. It is nice house and we live close to many of her relatives.
The house did need some upgrades when I moved in. It was built in 1964 and much of the house was outdated. After I moved in, we remodeled the kitchen, bathroom, added a deck, as well as many other upgrades.
The house was about 1,200 square feet and we wanted a little more room. We added a nice 320 square foot addition. That addition is our sitting room and we spend most of our time in there.
The house is almost paid for. We only owe about $30,000 on the mortgage. The house was appraised for $226,000 in 2012, so we have a nice amount of equity in the house.
By staying in this house, my wife and I have avoided lifestyle creep. Having a small mortgage and low taxes enabled us to have a high savings rate. If we upgraded to a $500,000 house, we would not have been able to save 50% of our gross earnings over the past 10 years.
We are not planning on retiring until 2028. After we retire, we are planning on buying a house on a lake because we enjoy kayaking, boating, and fishing. We are planning on staying in Pennsylvania for 9 months per year. For the winter months, we plan on becoming snowbirds and head south for the winter.
A major life event caused us to rethink our plan. A close family member recently passed away following a four-year battle with cancer and other major health issues. Watching him suffer made us think about living more in the present and not focusing on what our life will be like in retirement.
We decided to look at some houses that were for sale on the lakes that are close to where we currently live. The nice thing about living in the Pocono Mountains is that there are many nice lakefront homes. The region is also known for private gated communities that attract people from New York City, Philadelphia, and Boston who buy weekend homes in these developments.
We started by looking online. What I found did not surprise me. Most of the lakefront houses were very expensive. Older houses that were lakefront cost $400,000 and needed upgrades. The newer houses are much more expensive.
Our next move was to look for a house that was not lakefront but had lake rights. This was a more modest priced market. Houses that were only 5-years old were less than $350,000. That was more in our price range because we would be putting about 60% down on the house.
We found a few that we really liked and decided to spend a Sunday looking at these houses. The first few were nice but way too big. We do not need or want 4,000 square feet of living space.
After looking at 5 houses we were starting to get tired. It is fun to look at these houses, but also overwhelming. Before we called it quits for the afternoon, I wanted to look at one last house.
The last house was a little less expensive. It was listed at $258,000. This house was in a private community that is only 8 miles from where we currently live. It also comes with lake rights to a private 150-acre lake. It is a serene lake that does not allow outboard motors. Only sailboats, kayaks, or boats with electric motors are allowed. It is also a catch-and-release lake that is stocked with bass, trout, catfish, and walleye.
For me, it was love at first sight. For my wife, she really liked the house, but more legwork was needed before we decided. We both agreed that we needed to do our due diligence and not buy a house after our first visit.
The next day, I called the realtor to set-up an appointment to tour the house. The realtor was nice as well as transparent. She gave me some interesting details about the house. In 2010, the house sold for $389,000 and is now listed for $259,000. I did not want to admit it, but that was the first red flag.
I asked why there was such a deep discount on a 10-year old house? She said that the taxes doubled because of a county reassessment. There is also a homeowners association (HOA) that charges $2,500 per year. The total annual cost of the taxes and home owner’s association fees would be $8,200. We now pay $2,700.
I was not happy about the major jump in taxes and fees. It was, however, not a deal breaker. I was smitten with the privately stocked lake.
The next evening, my wife and I decided to take a ride over to see our potential new house. We were excited. Our excitement, however, did not last.
We pulled into the driveway and got out to walk around the house. It was not currently occupied by the owners. We only took about two or three steps and we saw the neighbors Doberman Pincher as he came barreling towards us. Luckily, the dog’s owner was in his yard and called the dog back.
The Doberman caused me great concern. I am not afraid of big dogs, but my wife and I have a little dog. His safety trumps everything.
I was happy that the neighbor was outside. He came over and spoke with us. He seemed like a nice guy. He was young. I would guess in his early 30’s. We spoke about the house and of course what the fishing was like at the lake. I asked him about the homeowners association. He said they are not too bad to deal with, but he gets in trouble with them often. He said that he gets in trouble with the homeowners association for driving his ATV and snowmobile at night.
On our drive home, I was still thinking about fishing on a private lake every evening after work. At this point, my wife decided that she did not want to buy the house. She did not say anything to me on our drive home because she did not want to bust my bubble.
That evening, I could not sleep. My anxiety was out of control. I did not fall asleep until after midnight. The house was very nice, and I loved the lake. Deep down, I knew that it was not a good fit. All those red flags would not go away. They kept running around in my mind. I could not justify all of these issues.
As a member of the financial independence community, I do not like to pay taxes. I love fishing but hate taxes. Having my taxes go up almost 200% did not sit well with me.
The second source of anxiety was our dog. We don’t have children, so our dog is our baby. He currently has his own two-acre field to enjoy without worrying about being eaten by a Doberman. I would never do anything to put him in an unsafe situation.
The third warning sign was the neighbor. He did seem like a nice young man. However, I am not willing to put up with him driving his ATV at night.
When I awoke, my wife said that she wanted to talk. She told me that she loved me and wanted me to have a lake house. I worked and saved for over two decades and she wanted me to be happy. She just felt that this house was not for us.
I told her that I agreed with her. There are many reasons why my wife and I have a happy and successful marriage. We love each other, communicate well, and think alike. If a situation is not right, it is wrong. The house was not the right fit for us.
We could have afforded the house. It might have caused our saving rate to go from over 50% to 40%. That does not sound like a big deal, but I am more interested in saving and reaching early retirement than owning a lake house at this point in my life.
We have not since looked at any other houses. It was too emotional of a process for me. At this point, I think that we are going to stay in our current house until we retire. I have said this before, once you become a saver, you will never be a spender. As a saver, I will have to settle for fishing at our local state parks and public lakes instead of a private lake until we retire. Life can be much worse.
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