We start competing the moment we are born. Competition is everywhere. Completion is natural. It is the cycle of life. Eat or be eaten. We must compete every day. Only the strong survive.
When I was a boy, our dog had a litter of puppies. They too were competing from their earliest days. They would compete to get to the bottom of their basket to stay warm. The puppies would compete with their brothers and sisters to get closer to mom to eat. When I would watch and care for this litter, it did not take long to establish who the alpha of the litter was. He always ate first and would not roll over when playing with the other pups. How could such a young and tiny dog have established such will?
You might not see yourself as an alpha or even a competitive person. If you are working on reaching financial independence, odds are you are more completive than you might think. I would guess that you are very competitive.
Before I really gave it much thought, I never saw myself as a competitive person. For the most part, I am a laid-back guy. Growing up, I played baseball but was not very good. The only football that I have ever enjoyed playing was when I played Madden. The chess club or the debating team were also not for me. I always saw myself as a Type B personality.
The first time that I realized how competitive I truly was when I read about capitalism. I realized that I was competitive when I read that capitalism as an economic system where trade and industry are controlled by private owners who compete for profit. I have been competing for a buck since I started earning a paycheck.
Even though I have only won a few trophies and awards in my life, I am hyper-competitive. My whole adult life has been focused on competing. I am not referring to being in competition with my neighbors. What they have is not my concern. The type of competition I am referring to is competition with myself and society to reach my goal.
I set a lofty goal. My goal was to become financially independent. For anyone to reach financial independence, there will be a great deal of competition. On the road to that level of success, a person will have to face off against and defeat internal and external competing forces.
Postponing gratification is a form of competition. The ability to save money is always at odds with the desire to spend money. It is like there is an angel on one shoulder saying to save as much as possible. On the other shoulder, there is the temptation to spend and waste money. Temptation says if you want to be happy, buy that new car, house, or boat. You can afford it and you deserve it.
It is easy to give in to temptation. Who wants to work hard and sacrifice to get ahead? How can anyone sacrifice for decades to become financially independent?
Spending and having a good time is much easier than saving and investing for the future. Internal competition is fierce. At times, It is an internal fist fight. It certainly felt that way for me. As the saying goes, it is harder to conquer yourself than to conquer a city. in order to conquer self, a person needs to develop emotional intelligence.
While it might be harder to conquer yourself, the external competition is also not exactly easy. Most resources are limited. Everyone is fighting to get ahead.
If you own a business, you are competing with other businesses and market forces to be successful. Even if it is a side gig, there is still competition. To survive, a business owner must provide the best products or services at the lowest price.
While it might appear that being an employee is easier than being an entrepreneur. Being an employee is far from being easy. An employee must compete to land a job. There is competition to keep the position. There is competition with peers to advance in the organization. If your boss is a jerk, dealing with them brings on a level of competition.
The competition does not end after you earn the money. There are competing forces who want to take your money. Marketers are out to sell you stuff that you do not need. They don’t care if you land in debt. They are just competing to sell you something and to take your money.
You might have to compete at home to keep your money. You might have your emotions under control, but your family has their own needs and desires that need to be considered. It is not easy to keep a family on a budget. It takes creativity to keep a family satisfied and not bored.
They might be the most difficult completion that you have to face. You should not play a zero-sum game at home unless you want to have your family resent you. It is wise to approach this level of competition with good faith and to negotiate.
Competition truly is all around us. We face competition daily. It does not mean that you are not competitive just because you were not the captain of the basketball team in high school. For some people, it takes longer for their competitive drive to develop.
If you have decided that you want to be successful in this world, that thought alone requires a competitive nature. If you are taking the required steps to get ahead in life, you are more competitive than you give yourself credit for. If you are working on reaching financial independence by paying off debt, saving, sacrificing, and investing, you are extremely competitive.
Do you see yourself as being competitive?
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